love talk: how 30-minutes, 1x a week can benefit your relationship
Oh the weekend, so luxurious, so relaxing, so quick. It slips through our fingers like quicksand and before you know it, it's Monday and here we go again. What is your favorite part about the weekend?
For me, it's spending endless time with my loved ones, especially Brandon. In the summertime, weekends are particularly sweet, usually spent elsewhere. The days are longer, the opportunity to spend time together greater. During the week, we experience the exact opposite. We both work a lot and our social calendar is quite active, so there is little time for well, anything. We leave one another in the morning, and by the time we sit down for dinner, at 9PM might I add, we're pretty tired. Our minds are sleepy and our desire to have deep, meaningful conversations is almost null and void.
So in our endless search for balance, we started to think about a counter to this weekly slump. To actually spend time together outside of dinner/in front of the tv/ in bed falling asleep. I am a morning person, and I also love walking, so I recommended morning walks. Brandon was on board with the idea, and so we gave it a shot. We scheduled one day a week on the calendar to wake up early and go for a walk together. No phones, no work talk, no noise, just us and an iced latte. Upon waking up, we take 15 minutes to get ready, and that doesn't include checking our phones. We just brush our teeth, pull our clothes on and get. out. of. the. house. That's the important part. Just go. We walk to Brooklyn Bridge Park and take a short rest on a bench near the water. A few deep breaths, a brief walk home, and then we start our usual morning routine. We chose Wednesdays because they're smack in the middle of the week. The walk feels like a spa treatment for my mind in the morning, and of course, now I look forward to it. Not only do I get fresh air, mild exercise, and sunshine, but I get to spend an hour with Brandon, a weekday treat. We like to call these our "morning moments." We even have it on our calendar's as a repeating event, so there's no backing out. Physically scheduling things, whether on a paper calendar or on an iPhone, makes it harder for to cancel or forget.
It's been about a month of these Wednesday morning walks, and I can't tell you how happy they make us. They help us return to one another outside of all of the chaos, outside of our jobs and our families and our friends, just us. They help us power through the week, and get even more excited about the weekend.
You too can instill some morning moments in your relationship, and while it doesn't have to be a morning per se, I like them because as mentioned, our minds are still fresh. You won't have the chance to be annoyed by a delayed subway or stressed about a flooded inbox. When planning, choose something that you both enjoy doing, and that requires communications (i.e a loud workout class does not count.) Our friends recently told us they have a Friday morning dance party every week to get pumped for the weekend! This is another fun variation of morning moments I loved :)